Motivational cleaning mom on TikTok goes viral after the left try to cancel her because she voted for Trump. Now there’s a lot of moms and women on the app claiming that her tone and approach have nothing to do with politics and everything to do with her yelling. They claim that she’s shaming other moms and making them feel guilty for not being as motivated as her. On the other hand, many are reeled into Kylie’s routines and supporting her saying that she’s changed their lives.
Who Is Kylie Perkins
Last week I decided to upgrade my phone and the only app I could log into was TikTok, which is how I stumbled upon Kylie Perkins. At first I scrolled right past her. But, then I watched one of her videos and others tagging her happened to come into my feed as well. Like I said, all of the sudden she went viral and people are now saying it’s because the democratic women on the app started calling her out. I didn’t dig deep but from what I understand, they figured out that Kylie voted for Trump and that’s when all the attempted ‘canceling’ started. And it backfired.
I’m going to share my thoughts on everything below (as a mom, retired house cleaner and decluttering expert), so stay with me. As an avid and professional blogger, I’ve learned not to jump right on the internet and start sharing my immediate thoughts when I first stumble upon something.
Kylie Perkins is a mom, wife and social media influencer who went viral on TikTok after sharing her motivational, tough love videos about house cleaning, decluttering and waking up to do what’s best for you and your kids. A Daily Pop posted this saying that the left are trying to cancel her because of her political views. Y’all know I voted for Trump and my thoughts on this has nothing to do with who we vote for.
TikTok Mom’s Approach To Everyday Household Routines Is Sparking Debate
At first, you think she’s yelling at you and many are sharing their mental health thoughts about the way Kylie approaches other moms. She did mention in one of her videos that she’s just loud, her family is loud and that’s how she comes across. I totally understand because I too was that mom. I’m from NY, y’all know that. But as I grew older and out of my young mom phase, life changes, you change and you reinvent yourself time and time again. I do think that Kylie is being genuinely caring in teaching stay at home moms to get up, get going, there are no excuses. It’s the way many of us moms are when we are ‘young’! For those of you that are new here, I’m a retired professional house cleaner and a recovering perfectionist. I post about toxic free cleaning and decluttering because I’ve learned a lot over the years and adopting the slow living movement has made a huge difference in the way that I view life in general.
Is There A Right And Wrong Way To Deliver Your Message
As you can see in many of the comments people are not all about the way she’s delivering her message. However, there’s a lot of people supporting her. In one TikTik video by another woman (not sure if she’s a mom) she says that Kylie is not realistic when she recommends 2 hours of cleaning per day. Kylie responded saying that’s basically a random number and I think (I THINK) Kylie is speaking to Stay at Home Moms who are home all day. I could be wrong, correct me in the comments please. The woman that didn’t agree with Kylie was obviously someone who works a lot, has a lot of running around in between home life and only cleans 20 minutes a day.
In my experience, you get to a point in your life where you are only tidying up 15-30 minutes a day. I’m so minimalist now that I barely clean. But that didn’t happen overnight. I’m almost 45 years old. I’ve been cleaning since I was 12. Shit changes. And, my daughters are grown now.
For me personally, I didn’t take the messaging well. That’s because I am so far into my healing journey that I view her approach entirely different than what I probably would have 10-20 years ago.
From the outside looking in it’s damaging. It’s not a sustainable solution like many said. Sure, it gets you jolted up thinking about what a slob you might be and for a moment you find yourself actually taking her advice and doing the work.
It’s like consuming too much coffee, getting that rush and then crashing anytime between 1-4.
when you overwhelm yourself by doing too much in one day you experience set backs, feelings of shame, guilt, fear, self sabotage
There are women who struggle with mental health; OCD, ADHD and such pulling out their fridge, tearing off the wallpaper and scrubbing like they’re in a Cinderella bootcamp after listening to Kylie Perkins saying that this is just flat out unhealthy for them.
No overwhelm please. And to many, she’s exhausting just listening to her.
The Controversy Over TikTik Influencer Kylie Perkins
After watching a few more of her videos I believe that the message is intended to be positive, uplifting, and she obviously means well in everything she shares. I think she saw other moms on TikTok living in filth and said, “Get the f*ck up off your ass and clean your house. Your kids don’t deserve to live this way and neither do you!”
There is a side effect of cleaning your home like a perfectionist. I was raised in a strict and structured environment where chores were to be done each and every day and if they weren’t done right, I had to do them again. Going back to feeling like Cinderella. I’m not good enough. I hated the word chores and ditched it as an adult. It just became a lifestyle. Essentially I was a minimalist growing up. Not with the people who made me do chores as a young girl, but when I lived with my mom we barely had any food, furniture, clothing, etc. So minimalism wasn’t anything new to me as an adult. I adopted it and at one point I had a lot of things because I thought I needed to fill that void – I wanted to know what it was like to have ‘things, stuff’!
What I have learned working with body dysmorphia, hoarding clients, having my own mental issues, is that house cleaning is a real problem in this world. Some people were never taught how to clean. Some people don’t have the ambition, motivation, urge to get up and just do it.
- You’re either too clean, perfectionist style
- You aren’t clean enough, too messy, or even filthy
- The real healing begins when you find the balance
I was so obsessed with cleaning that I damaged my entire families immune system over the years.
I was never messy because that wasn’t my nature. Remember, if it wasn’t perfect, I had to do it over and over again. At the age of 12.
Now the women aren’t 12 on TikTok that she’s talking to. But, they are young moms. Young women trying to balance it all. Without the overwhelm. The tough love is great. However, there comes a point in time when those people who currently look up to you will eventually remember the way you delivered that ‘so called’ love. Is it doing more damage? Or, is it genuinely helping?
How To Maintain a Clean & Healthy Home without the Overwhelm
At The Uncluttered Project we believe in crafting simplicity, avoiding overwhelm, and healing all naturally. When I look back, I realize that I was over doing it. It didn’t need to be perfect because it never was. In my mind, the thought of germs in my home was disgusting and needed to be prevented at all costs. The cleaning aisle robbed us from living a normal life. Destroyed our bodies, brains and well being. I talk a lot about greenwashing and how we can put a stop to it.
So, do I think that Kylie Perkins message is a bit much. That’s not for me to judge. I can only speak about my life experiences and what I believe works and what doesn’t.
I can tell you that when you tell someone ‘how to do something’, it never actually gets done ‘YOUR WAY’- these people have to learn how to take care of themselves, their homes and their entire lives in their own way. If they learn something from what someone else is sharing, then very good. We all have our own way of doing things. This is just how she wants to share her message.
Chime in below and join us next week for #coffeetalk
- Simplify everyday by decluttering little things you don’t need anymore
- Visualize the life and home you want everyday, think about what you want it to look and feel like
- Ditch the chemical cleaning products
- Avoid purging, deep cleans (do small tasks instead)
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